[ankitakumari08.wordpress.com] “Attachment is not love.”

Ask most people what makes a life meaningful, and most will say relationships.
Breathe a little more. Lean, touch, and connect. The reality is, real love and real connections doesn’t come that cheaply. In love we may fight. Some of us run. We effectively cling to the other person, moving ourselves into their spaces and violate boundaries- ours and theirs. We get jealous, demanding, and emotional. We do more and then flail when we don’t get appreciated.
Attachment is not love. I may have a male best friend; you may have a female best friend. You may be attached to him or her emotionally but that isn’t love.
To love is not to ask anything in return, not even to feel that you are giving something. It does not involve addiction and compassion but rather lightness and compassion. It means being complete on your own and coping up with your partners mechanism and behaviours’. Love needs connection. The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you are at risk. If you and your partner stay away make it a point to call him or her up at least for a few minutes. Love does not mean you always need to talk over phone or meet regularly. But, the generation we are in, everything is risky. Make them understand that you miss them. The lesser you talk; the more is your relationship at risk. Be focused. Don’t let your love life ruin your aim in life. Love and career are two different paths. Don’t mix them up. Never. Love for many is simply attraction, distraction and infatuation. If you feel this you are not in love my friend. Love will not die even if you don’t get physical or even if you don’t meet up regularly. Never be demanding or controlling. Never ask your partner to think as you do or to do as you say.
I have not been in many relationships. Seriousness means being loyal. If you want to take a break, want someone else as your partner, say it at once. It may hurt but do so. Never cheat on your partner. Don’t avoid falling in love. The more you avoid love; you are more likely to fall in love. Just do what you feel like. Never force yourself to do anything. They are many different types of people out there. You aren’t going to be compatible and comfortable with all of them. Be true to your partner. Open up your views, your experiences, your feelings, and your mind. Love is never perfect. If you are struggling with love, fight for it. You may succeed. Don’t just date because you don’t want to be alone or you don’t have a control over your sex hormones. Be loyal or leave. Never dream of your future. I believe in destiny. If we are meant to be together we will be, no matter what. Efforts are needed in love. You try at times and then you manage to be together for yet another couple of years. You grow up, become more mature with every passing day. And just as you start to appreciate the simplicity of being in love together, life took an obvious turn- college ended, and you start to work. Stress at work always propagates back home. Everyone needs to vent out the frustration and we understand that. Problems resurface when you couldn’t give each other the most basic thing in a relationship- time. Distance increases and things change. Don’t let this happen in your love life. Trust me it will be hard for you, very hard indeed. This is seen most in this generation. Prove this wrong. Your love story can’t be incomplete. Be strong, fight against everyone, fight against all odds, fight against all circumstances, be loyal, be true and just trust your partner and your destiny.

And even after lots of trials, if you don’t like the story you are in. Leave. You can’t let your mental peace be at risk for the sake of this relationship thing. Time heals everything.
Life will be perfect one day. Trust me.

https://ankitakumari08.wordpress.com/2020/04/30/attachment-is-not-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1

and … so what?

[2020-04-30 07:53 UTC]

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[laurenlum.travel.blog] “COVID-19, America, and the Dangers of Being Connected”

In Paul Virilio’s Speed and Politics, he describes the open sea to “compensate for every social, religious and moral constraint, for every political and economic oppression, even for the physical laws due to the earth’s gravity, to continental crampedness” (Virilio 65). In many ways, this relates to how many viewed the Internet at the time of its introduction to people’s home machines. The Internet was supposed to represent a rebirth for information; it would allow people to access any type of knowledge that they wanted, connect individuals from across the country, and serve as a medium to share your ideas and stories. And it certainly has, allowing information to travel at an unprecedented rate and people to connect from all over the world.

This can be compared to the shifting paradigm of the Renaissance. With the advances in transportation and spread of information, the world became more connected during the Renaissance. Just as the Internet represented a rebirth of information, the Renaissance experienced a rebirth of thought that was reflected in art, architecture, innovations, and many other establishments.

But the ‘open sea’, as Virilio describes, does not only free people from oppression and physical barriers; the open sea “became the right to crime, to a violence that was also freed from every constraint” (Virilio 65). The freedom of the open sea did not just serve as a medium for free travel and thought, but an expansion of violence and war. The changes of the Renaissance reflects this as well; along with innovations in medicine, art forms, and transportation, there were innovations in war. Weapons became deadlier, easier to use, and more indiscriminate with who they targeted. 

The expansion of the Internet and the freedom of knowledge is no exception to this behavior, and the way America is dealing with the COVID-19 pandemic reflects it. America has fairly liberal laws on Internet usage, and while this has allowed the spread of ideas and knowledge, it has been just as good at spreading disinformation. During this pandemic, many people have been helped by looking at trustworthy websites (such as the Center for Disease Control’s website) to learn more about how to stay safe and how to avoid endangering themselves and others. But many have turned to the Internet to look for what they want to hear; that the disease is fake, that it is a conspiracy, that the virus is ‘not as lethal’ as the CDC warns. This type of information, found in tabloids and conspiracy videos and certain online communities, is just as proliferous as information from reputable sources. This type of misinformation is not without consequence; with armed protests happening in many cities and groups of people refusing to quarantine, these people pose a serious threat to all Americans. In one of his notebooks, da Vinci wrote, “Let no man who is not a mathematician read the elements of my work” (da Vinci 9). As elitist and highbrow as it sounds, it has some truth given our current situation- many times people will read legitimate information, but will not have the proper background to realize its legitimacy or use it in a productive way.

This severe response and militant disbelief serves as a haunting reflection of what the open Internet serves for in democratic countries. Compared to other countries, America’s internet is relatively ‘free’, and government censorship is limited. In response, the media and the Internet has been flooded with misinformation and biased pieces that are passed off as ‘news’. Instead of using technology to get educated, most people use our many sources of information to confirm their long-standing biases. This is a stark contrast to authoritarian-ruled countries like China, where the Internet is heavily censored and technology is used as a government tool to control their population. This heavily controlled Internet is easily able to control massive groups of people by only allowing government-approved ‘truths’. And while this does not fit the idea of the ‘open sea’ as Virilio imagined it, this type of control has worked frighteningly well during the COVID-19 pandemic with many areas of China having quarantine restrictions lifted already.

While the outbreak is far from over, I hope America’s response will put our usage of the Internet in speculation again. This incident, and many incidents before now, have shown that misinformation is extremely dangerous, and that the spread of conspiracies and biased articles have deadly consequences. Only by addressing these problems can we prove that the Internet can be used as a free, open medium to spread thoughts and knowledge instead of being a favorable tool to control the public.

https://laurenlum.travel.blog/2020/04/28/covid-19-america-and-the-dangers-of-being-connected/comment-page-1/#comment-1

Your depiction of the situation is excellent — but I am more reserved about your conclusions.

You may also be interested to read Elizabeth Eisenstein’s fine history of the printing press. Similar misinformation occurred during the early expansion of this technology.

Misinformation is not extremely dangerous — nuclear weapons are still more dangerous.

Misinformation may not even be the problem at all, but rather illiteracy (cf. your Da Vinci quote). Please note that it took several hundred years for even a modicum of literacy to become widespread (in early US history, literacy was a requirement to vote — but AFAIK that typically meant nothing more than the ability to sign your own name).

Also: the history of copyright law also plays a significant role.

Finally, you may also be interested to read some of my own work regarding “retard media” — a good starting point might be How to define “retard media”.

Keep it up! 😀

[2020-04-29 09:19 UTC]

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[specialteachermom.wordpress.com] “My First Blog Post”

Hi, I’m Rosanna. I can’t believe I’m writing this right now because it is completely out of my comfort zone.  I am not the most outgoing person, but we have been living in the time of quarantine and I’ve been stuck inside the house for more days than I care to count. What better time to start making new connections and try something different?

I am mom of two kids and a special education teacher. While Covid-19 has made me a work from home mom for the time being, I usually work in a middle school with students who have learning disabilities.

It seems to me like there are a ton of blogs out there for special education teachers, but I have not found nearly as many blogs geared towards the secondary level and specifically for learning disabilities (let me know if I’m wrong). I would love to connect with other educators and share resources to support this specific population. 

As a teacher and mom, I have read my fair share of blogs. I honestly never imagined that I would be writing one. Now that I have started this blogging journey, I have already gained the utmost respect and gratitude for all of the bloggers who put their hearts and souls out there for everyone to see.

I first started using Pinterest and discovered blogs when I started teaching ten years ago and continued to use it for fashion, recipes, cleaning, and more. Then I became pregnant with my first child, and I turned to Pinterest for all things pregnancy and baby related.

Reading stories and advice from other moms was so important to me when I was pregnant because I felt really overwhelmed and had no idea what to expect or how to prepare for a baby. I did not have my mom or many close friends who had babies at that time. These women who put their blogs out there will never know how much they helped me.

Now I hope I can share a few things that I have learned and help some other new moms, new teachers, or anyone else along the way.

https://specialteachermom.wordpress.com/2020/04/28/my-first-blog-post/comment-page-1/#comment-2

Hi Rosanna 🙂

I don’t generally correspond with gmail (for privacy reasons). I did want to suggest using tags and / or categories — not only as a way to connect with others, but also as a way to re-connect with things you’ve previously written. I understand it might feel odd to think it could ever be hard to find something, but time happens! 😉

[2020-04-29 06:05 UTC]

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[anamariacherciu.art.blog] “L O V E making”

MOAP represented a search for the self, L O V E making embodies the exploration of that ‘found self’.

Being affected by several mental health problems from a young age, I have been continuously chasing a cure. I have been desperately seeking for the tools that could at least alleviate the suffering, especially during the recent years of my life.

Sometimes when the dreadful chaos would quiet down I would begin to notice that I am not alone. There are other souls silently screaming and crying. Observing this aspect is rather sad than comforting.

Succeeding various methods of really suppressing the problem rather than holistically treating it, I ultimately found love. This might sound plain or appear to be a far too simple answer, but truly it is this simple. The complexity however, lays within the layers of love, the depths that can be reached through it. 

Let me ask you a question. When was the last time you took yourself on a date? Offer love to yourself. Do not resist it. There is no need to. Stop running. Turn around and look at your Self. Embrace it. Accept it. Approve it. Strip-off and just be. All that is happening is happening within you. You are the one you are living with for the greatest part during this life. Build a conscious relationship with yourself. Let go of being alienated and estranged from yourself and welcome yourself.

L O V E making embodies a personal project focused on inspiring its audience to consider the emotion of love. The aim is to spark the interest in whoever might connect with the project to reflect on the idea of love. The objective is to make the audience feel.

The intent is situated far from the action of trapping the concept of love within words by attaching any labels to it. Love is subjective to every human being populating this great planet. Rather than providing a rigid, limited portrait of what love could mean, the focus is placed on the feeling.

The aim is attained by the fabrication of a collection / series of digitally manipulated self-portrait photographs. Additionally, the gentle colour palette weaving the aesthetic of the project alongside the shapes and the forms introduced also represent key elements supporting the intent. ( Note To Self: to be revised after the final outcome is produced )

L O V E making represents a form of transmission for the emotion of love. Transcending any social constructs such as gender, this project communicates to every individual who resonates with it. 

In the WP “backend” interface, you can add more detailed information about category names — IMHO this may be very helpful, because names like “FMP” and “LM” seem quite cryptic.

You might be able to find better tutorials @ wordpress.tv but the basic ideo (IMHO) would be to add a description to the catagory data — I think this would also be shown whenever someone clicks on a category link.

Let me know (either via reply, via email or whatever) if you want / appreciate more help. 🙂

https://anamariacherciu.art.blog/2020/04/28/l-o-v-e-making-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1

[2020-04-28 14:18 UTC]

#alleviate, #alleviation, #art, #chaos, #emotion, #emotional, #emotions, #love, #mental-health, #photography, #self, #self-portrait, #suffer, #suffering

[shemeansbold.wordpress.com] “RANDOM FACTS ABOUT ME!”

I have always thought that I connect with people who let me into their lives, not entirely but if I know certain things about them, I like them better. So here are 20 random facts about me which you can be interested in.

  1. I am born and brought up in Mumbai, India- I’m 17, I have amazing parents and an elder brother. My dad is a surgeon, my mom is a nutritionist and my brother is currently pursuing MBBS.
  2. I am a South Indian- my dad’s a Tulu and my mom is Konkani, however, I can speak neither. Hindi and English are my sweet spots. A little weak marathi too.
  3. I am a huge Bollywood fan- I have grown up watching Anjali-Rahul and ofc Poo.
  4. Never trouble me while watching cricket – ofc it started with a huge crush on Virat Kohli (posters, newspaper cuttings, photos, etc) and I started loving the sport.
  5. I am scared of all animals and have never liked dogs– you can judge me all you want but dont get a dog in front of me, I will jump out of the window.
  6. As every kid I also wanted to be a doctor till 5th std, but “mujhse zyaada padhai wadhai nahi hoti”- that’s why I took arts. just kidding.
  7. Have not been to a concert – I wanted to go for JB’s concert but ‘Ammi nahi maani’ thank god. we all know how it went.
  8. I am shit scared of theme park rides.
  9. I like baking, I have done a photography course and I have also learnt classical dance, hip hop, etc.- I will get a Job somewhere.
  10. I know people are going to judge me but I absolutely love watching tiktoks, I can spend hours doing that. I tiktok and chill.
  11. My life mantra is WWBWD- what will Blair Waldorf do? I absofuckingutely love her.
  12. Again everyones gonna judge me but- I am a huge Bigg boss fan, I defend people, I shout at my family for talking in between. fun fact- we spent my birthday at home coz bb finale.
  13. “Who cannot fall in love with New York City”- I have never been to NYC, but that’s my dream destination and yes I’m planning to visit it soon.
  14. My zodiac sign is Aquarius and I do try to find who my ‘soulmate’ is gonna be. I dont remember but I do try to find out hehe.
  15. I am a water baby. I love water rides, swimming and I plan to do snorkelling or underwater diving very soon.
  16. I can spend hours watching James Charles tutorials because I love makeup.
  17. I am a sucker for stationery- they say diamonds are a girls best friend, for me its pens, diaries, highlighters, sticky notes omg.
  18. I am not a foodie but I love crispy chicken burgers. Also, I cannot tolerate spicy food. I just can’t-
  19. I am completely a coffee person. never really tried tea except for green tea.
  20. I hate– heat (totally a winter person), being left on seen/like and wrong grammar.

This is just really random facts, I hope you guys can connect with me through this and those who knew these 20 facts about me, drop a comment. also those who relate to me, leave one too. I will try to be regular as possible but do follow me on Instagram. Thank you if you read this far and I hope I didn’t disappoint.

Hi Su 🙂

Is Suhaani your “correct” name — it’s beautiful, are you afraid people will misspell it (I almost did 😉 ).

Why is writing your “escape”? (as it says in your “tagline”?)

🙂 Norbert

https://shemeansbold.wordpress.com/2020/04/26/about-me/comment-page-1/#comment-86

[2020-04-26 14:14 UTC]

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