In the past six months, I have had three people choose to fall away from my life. Two were mostly in step with when my second son was born; one was more recent than that. My Mother always used to say that things came in threes, and it has stuck in my head, so maybe I partly manifested this number, based on that old superstition 🙂
When people up & go, it can create a feeling within of guilt: what did I do wrong? But let me tell you – when someone does this, it is more to do with what is going on within them, than it is to do with you. Unless you chronically have people ditching you – then, yeah, you might need to take a look at yourself. But that’s a post for another day 🙂
So, the three people were: a friend who I saw maybe a small handful of times each year, a good friend and a family member. They often say that you will lose people when big, life events happen: marriage, divorce, having a baby. I think that this instance, in particular, is when it is more to do with the other person. The significant change in your life has stirred something within them. So they choose to leave your life, unconsciously creating a reason that is irrelevant to your situation. Or you just stop hearing from them.
The family member leaving my life was more that I was a bystander of this person’s choice. The fact of the matter is, though, when she chose to stop seeing one of us – in actuality, she of course chose to stop seeing all of us.
The bottom line to all of this is not a matter of me being right and them wrong or vice versa. Whether or not they have bigger things going on in their lives/in their heads. Whether I inadvertently pissed them off or not.
What it all comes down to is how I choose to deal with it.
I can dwell on it; I can point my finger and call them horrible names. I can throw a pity party. Not that anyone can come to it #socialdistancing
What I can do – what you can do, if you are ever in this situation – is take some deep breaths. Feel grateful for the role they played in your life. Write them a letter, detailing those gratefuls. Or write them a letter, venting. Or do both. Just drop it in your local post box without a stamp – or you can burn or bury the letter, if that resonates with you more.
Trust that everything is always working out for your highest good. Acknowledge that your vibration – the energy you give out – changed and was no longer of the same vibration that this person’s was.
Law of Attraction brings us who and what we are in sync with – whether you’re deliberately creating or creating by default.
Trust that the role this person came into your life for has played out and it is for the highest good of you both that you have now moved on.
Life is what we make of it. It happens through our words, thoughts, emotions and actions.
Choose how you will react.
Blessings to you. Have a beautiful day. xx
I don’t believe in the so-called law of attraction. Instead I prefer to REPEL people! (LOL 😉 )
Just posted on something similar recently — see https://fuckwith.news.blog/2020/03/31/to-fuck-with-or-not-to-fuck-with
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