New Media Works
6:55 pm on July 18, 2026 Tags: communication ( 2 ), engagement, ignorance, ignore, impact, impactful, resent, resented, resenting, resentment, sentiment, significance, significant, support
I can’t be the only one who has days where I ask myself, Is this actually worth it? Does anyone read my blog? Is anyone listening? Am I making any kind of difference, or do I just look foolish for continuing to put my heart out there?
I see other people with huge followings. Their posts are filled with likes, comments, and shares. Meanwhile, I struggle to get one like. Heck, if I’m being honest, sometimes I’m the only person who likes my own post.
And on those days, doubt gets loud.
But eventually, I remind myself why I started.
I don’t write for algorithms. I don’t write for followers. I write for the victim who feels alone. I write for the younger version of me—the girl who desperately needed someone to tell her she wasn’t crazy, that healing was possible, and that her story didn’t have to end in brokenness.
Most days, that’s enough.
But if I’m being honest… not always.
Sometimes the world feels cruel. Sometimes comparison steals my joy. Sometimes I wonder if my words are disappearing into empty space.
And maybe that’s okay.
Maybe we’re supposed to have days like this. Maybe we need the hard days so we don’t confuse social media with reality. Because social media is a highlight reel. People post the victories, the milestones, the applause. They don’t always post the moments when they question everything.
Well, I am.
Today is one of those days.
I’m not writing this because I want sympathy. I’m writing it because I want whoever is reading this to know that I’m human too. I have bad days. I question myself. I get discouraged.
But tomorrow, I’ll probably write again.
Because if one person reads these words and feels a little less alone… then maybe it was worth it all along.
I see you + what you’re doing … and I definitely feel most of what you do is impactful. You are writing your thoughts and feelings … and sometimes you feel as if they are vanishing into a “void” (cf. socio.business.blog/2024/09/20/voiding-and-avoiding-the-void ).
Yet you are also actively yourself putting your work into such lost and deserted emptiness. body-chaos.com is now basically nothing — it simply redirects to survivor-space.com (the big G interprets this as “body-chaos is completely wiped out” — personally IDGAF about what the big G thinks, interprets, etc. but there are a lot of people on Earth who consider it to be the Pope of the Internet [cf. socio.business.blog/2023/10/09/if-google-is-the-pope-of-the-internet-then-who-are-you-i ] ).
I have tried to support your work and also help you to carry your “impact forward”. But you seem to ignore my offers for help. I have written comments on your blogs that remain unpublished (a while back I actually had a website where I would publish my own comments together with copies of the posts I was responding to; that blog still exists, but I haven’t posted there in a while because there simply isn’t much of an audience for it).
Recently, I have been thinking a lot about the notion of “resentment”. Today, it is usually view as an unambiguously negative sentiment. AFAIK, in the original French usage of the term, it wasn’t limited in this negative manner — insofar as apparently a long time ago, one could also have “positive” feelings towards someone else’s behavior (toward one-self). But today I feel it is also unambiguously interpreted negatively for a different reason: today the interpretation is (I feel) that it is a sign of weakness for someone to feel negatively (or indeed anything) in response to someone else’s behavior (at all). The reasoning is, I feel, that there is a movement to promote the idea that people ought to be independent and unaffected by other people in a very general manner.
I am still playing around with such ideas, but I wanted to share them with you (and your audience) here and now because I hope to raise awareness for such issues. In this sense, it’s not your words or my words that matter, but it is our engagement and communication and shared language and words that matter.
I have decided to try to revive my work on establishing more engaging discussions across blogs here @ JAX News.
For this purpose, I have revised the “Us & Them” page by adding the following guideline:
after publication (here @jax.news.blog ), the link to the original comment should be converted to plain text (in other words, not a live / functional link); if either the original comment or a new pingback link (to the new post @jax.news.blog ) are published, only then should the plain text link should be converted to a live / functional link (in order to create a transparent / functional discussion thread)
Hopefully this revision might motivate more bloggers to come out of the woodwork and to actually respond to comments and thereby improve discussion / communication across blogs. 🙂
Two “need” and “want” terms are seemly referred to a lot in the economic realm. In this realm, they are easy to distinguish because of only based on the purchasing motivation of a person to determine. However, these words become more complicated when I consider them in different situations. I must say that it will be perilous if I use these rashly
LOVE
In the perspective of love, these two words are sensitive above all cases. Specifically, you should be careful whenever you say “I want you” unless you want your girl/boyfriend to misunderstand that you are just taking advantage of her/him for your physiology demand, and you should be serious whenever you say “I need you” if you don’t have the intention to maintain a long-time relationship with her/him. In my point of view, in love, “want” is more about sex and pleasure, while “need” is more about being ahead of the limitation of sex. Hence, I define true love which stems from the dependency on each other and each side leans on (or needs) each other to maintain and develop the relationship. Reversely, pragmatic love is when each side expects (or wants) each other as a tool to meet, serve, and satisfy the normal demand. Thus, when a person says that “I need you”, which means that he/she respects you and nurtures a sustainable future dream with you. In converse, when a person says that “I want you”, which means that he/she is only exploiting you; once he/she can possess you, he/she does not need to keep you. You are the only one to someone who feels deprived without you and needs you to fill up that person’s space in the heart. Otherwise, you do not play an important role in someone’s life if that person wants you because other countless people can be willing to satisfy that person’s demand apart from you. Conclude: In the love aspect, “I need you” is positive, “I want you” is negative
Marriage
In the marriage context, in most of the cases that love gradually turns into overshadowed, responsibility comes to the throne instead; as a result, both sides tie to each other. The evaluation of the two terms “want” and “need” in this family aspect is permuted, which means that “need” is negative, while “want” is positive. I think that, normally, in the family relationship, the partners often chafe that their wife/husband does not totally understand about their daily works. They slowly birth the negative thoughts of each other and repute their spouse as dependents. They think that their spouse cannot live without them as the penetrability becomes exhausted. Ultimately, they consider themselves the needed persons. However, the couples may needn’t each other because both of them are adults. In family life, the insiders have to share the sundry duties relating to house works, which arises the dependent psychology. Consequently, the spouse thinks that their life will not be perfect without the other. Albeit, in fact, a wife can live without her husband’s support, and reverse; of course, people undergoing a broken marriage understand this fact most. For instance, Lisa Arends – an author of Lesson from the End of a Marriage blogs shared that she mistakenly thought that she actually needed the attachment from her husband until she realized she could survive well after saying goodbye to him. Previously, she had never navigated adulthood without him because he could support her in work, maintain and upgrade their home on the cheap by his impressive carpentry, or soothe her when she felt stressed. However, she was wrong. That is a great lesson she could learn from her first marriage. Sometimes, being needed can feel good because it gives you purpose and duty in the marriage life. It awakes self-confidence and helps reduce the feelings of being alone because if someone needs you, he/she is unlikely to leave you. Nevertheless, if being needed is too much, it makes you feel burdened and seemly stuck in a prison. As a result, in the marriage context, you may desire to be wanted than to be needed because being wanted makes you still valuable and attractive in the eyes of your partner. “Need” is the basic thing, while “want” is beyond that basis. Conclude, in the marriage aspect, “I need you” is negative, “I want you” is positive
FRIENDSHIP
In friendship, people often use “need” or “don’t need” than “want” or “don’t want” because the “want” term implies a possession that seemly less appears. Unlike in marriage life or work environment, friendship is intrinsically equal. Once the equality is destroyed, that relationship is ruined. In friendship, when people need someone who also needs them, it symbols a reciprocal relationship. To be more specific, you and your close friend always need mutually when you would like to share something relating to life, work, family, study, etc., and expect support and help from the other. In this case, both of you are beneficial, so both are equal. The more equal reciprocity is maintained, the more the friendship is nurtured and developed. For instance, you may want a friend to go to the movie with you, but you need that friend to be punctual. So, “want” only describes an offer while “need” plays the coequal standard allowing the relationship to be healthy, trust, and respectful. In addition, the state of “want” in friendship is easy to lead to exploitation. It means that when someone wants you, they tend to want to take something from you. They are taking advantage of you to benefit themselves. Conclude: In the friendship aspect, “I need you” is positive, “I want you” is negative
WorkING environment
You can evaluate whether your seniors are good leaders or not by paying attention to the attitude when they transmit information or a requirement. There is a difference between a boss and a leader. A boss uses power to dominate the workplace and force the subordinates to do regarding his/her requirement. Thus, a boss often uses “I want you” more than “I need you”. Whereas, a leader uses power to help you be better. A leader normally is positive, empowering, inspiring, and acting for the development of all collective. Hence, a leader often says “I need you” more than “I want you”. For example, a boss will say “I want you to give me a marketing idea within this afternoon”, and a leader will slap your back and say “I need you to propose to me a marketing idea as soon as possible so that we can catch up with the process of project”. If you work with a boss, you are less respected because you are tied by his/her authority, then you are forced to do according to his/her commands without speaking up. In some cases, you may have a chance to speak up, but your idea will not be easy to accept. It is because your boss had the decision in the head, and listening to your idea just ensures the process is obeyed or hides the monopoly of the boss. Consequently, he/she only wants you to serve his/her decisions. Reversely, if you work with a leader, you have many opportunities to voice your ideas and those ideas will be respected, absorbed, and considered. The work environment is operated basing on the team mechanism than hierarchy. Therefore, you are needed to contribute to any project of the whole team. The leader is responsible for leading you and the team to the joint objective. Conclude: In the workplace, “I need you” is positive, “I want you” is negative
This blog is my personal view, i hope you read it in an open-hearted state!
You seem to have a lot of guts — I am speechless. Amazing! 😀 But also foolish? 😯
What makes you think you have such a level of sensitivity of these sorts of concepts — are you a native speaker of English? Do you study the English language? Are you an academic? Or do you simply feel confident enough to share your own insights this way?
New Media Works
6:09 pm on April 24, 2021 Tags: accomodation, apprehensive, campus, ideal, life ( 4 ), lifestyle, living, living quarters, nervous, quarters, room, rooms, together, work ( 4 )
I’m apprehensive. I have yet to be alloted accomodation since I want to stay in the campus itself. Lets see how things turn out. I’ll apparently be allotted a quarter with 2 bedrooms. For me, that would be ideal as long as I get someone to work with me.
Keywords: SHORT STORIES, THOUGHTS, TRUTHS, ADULTHOOD, CHANGE, DEALING, FEAR, HEALING, LIFE, WORDS
Years of playing it safe and controlled, and nothing to show for it. I still experienced loss. I still missed out on people and opportunities. I still got judged. I still faced challenges. So why not just be carefree, fearless, and daring? Why not just take life by the horns and see how long I can hold on before I am thrown off?
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