[https://upperperk.wordpress.com] “Staying connected in a disconnected world”

There are few people I know who are more involved in others’ lives the way I am. That is not meant as a slight to others or a pat on the back to me. I use it as information to give credibility to the information I plan to share. As soon as this virus hit, my world of connecting spun out of control. Normally I literally sit with 10 to 12 people a week outside of meetings and my other church and life responsibilities. As a result, I had to take a hard look at what connecting looked like now that I couldn’t connect in the traditional ways. Going into week 3 or 4, I have already lost track, let me share a few things I have learned and am learning.

  1. Rest is important. As I learned what to do, I have also learned that I too need to take this time of readjustment to do a better job of unplugging, slowing down and learning what stillness before God looks like better. So those of you driven ones like me, read and apply this first.
  2. Limit your time in the news and news feeds. What does that have to do with being connected? If you are constantly trying to stay connected with all that is available through the various sources of news and information you will literally use all your time in what can easily create additional stress, frustration and confusion. You can also go the other way and watch so much comedic snippets, videos and the like that you have no idea what and who are even alive😊. The challenge is real then to have any time to try to connect to and develop further your relationships with people.
  3. Be willing to go old school. Pick up your phone, no, not to text, but to call. Yes, I said call. You know where you hit the numbers and talk to a person on the other end? There is nothing quite like hearing a human voice when you can’t talk face to face. There are also free teleconferencing lines that you can use to talk to a group of people. Another practice I have found is writing letters. I am taking time each day to write a couple of letters of encouragement or connectivity. Taking the time to think through who and what you want to write is helpful to process the blessings you have in your life. It’s also a great way to get the kids involved. Pull out the construction paper, crayons and markers and have them write little notes or make pictures for people and mail them off.
  4. Technology can be connecting. There is tech that is all one sided but there is also interactive tech. Why not use Zoom or WebEx and invest in discipleship, Bible studies, family game nights or other creative things? Seeing a person and hearing them when you can’t be with them is a shadow of the norm but at least it is a shadow. It also grows the longing to be able to be together again.
  5. Do a drive by. There are ways to stay safe and distanced without taking risks. I have been stopped as I walked on the side of the road, had people talk to me from the sidewalk as we stood in the driveway and even chatted from car to car. There are some of you who would not feel comfortable doing that at all and others that did not even think of that and might like to try it. Above all, follow the safety guidelines set up, but these can be creative ways that you can see each other when you can’t be with each other.

These are just a few things that I have done. Maybe my thoughts will get some of your own going too. The bottom line is this: connectivity is a command not a suggestion by God. So, when you can’t connect the way you want to, why not try some alternative ways until we really can all meet again.

Hello Pastor 🙂

you mention technology — most people do not consider natural language to be a technology, but I do. For example, “connection” is a very important concept to me (and my work) — and it is via this concept (and more broadly, then technology of natural language) that I found your post.

As far as I know, (natural) language is also first and foremost in the Bible. It’s right there in Genesis 1:1 , right?

I wrote this recently:

https://jax.news.blog/2020/04/07/written-dead

Do you have an opinion on it?

Thanks!

🙂 nmw

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[2020-04-09 12:28 UTC]

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[accuwebhosting.com] “The Importance of SSL Certificates to Search Engines”

 

SSL is an abbreviation of Secure Socket Layer while TLS stands for Transport Layer Security. These are the two most often used protocols today. The common factor between them is that they serve as a security layer (individually) between your computer and the server. Every website that begins with HTTPS makes use of SSL/TLS.

Another fancy name for SSL Certificate is Digital Certificate, but its job description is simple – creating a secure connection between your browser and the server SSL certificates come as tiny data files hosted on the server of the website. They are typically encrypted so that the information contained therein about your website isn’t available just to anyone.

Besides establishing a secure link between HTTPS and your site, they provide authentication, which is also essential for a secure connection. Basically, SSL Certificate is tasked with a majority of the security responsibilities taking place between you and the server, including moving your site HTTP to an HTTPS web address. Are you familiar with that tiny padlock at the start of the address in the address bar? That’s the SSL Certificate trying to secure the website. Whenever you see this padlock, know that the information transmitted between you and the server is safe. Every bit of data transmitted is first encrypted through SSL encryption to render it senseless to the prying eyes of intruders.

The biggest worry about browsing the internet is not about unknowingly downloading some malware but rather, someone reading those private details you transmit to the guy on another end. This is where the importance of the SSL Certificate becomes apparent, it will encrypt your information while on transit so that only you and the receiver can read it. And when you add hackers in the mix, the need for encrypting your information becomes even more necessary.

As aforementioned, the SSL Certificate’s primary job is to protect all communications taking place between the server and the client. With an SSL Certificate installed on a website, all information exchanged between the user and the server is encrypted. This means it will protect you from hackers while securing your passwords, your identity, credit card information, and other private information at the same.

Establishing the integrity of a website is just as important as being mindful of what you share on it. You will be shocked by how easily people lose money through phishing attacks. For instance, if someone emailed you a link of fake imitation of your bank’s website, if you are not knowledgeable about phishing, you would more than glad to surrender your banking information to the attacker. However, SSL Certificates tries to help us by flagging such fake sites and keeping us away from trouble before we do anything regrettable.

Before installing an SSL Certificate on your website, you need to complete the verification procedure set by CA (Certificate authority). The authority will eventually verify your identity, organization, among other essential details. Your website will be given an HTTPS address once you’ve been proven to be authentic. Why is this bothersome process even necessary? Well, it is aimed at preventing a faker from creating a website that imitates yours for malicious reasons.

Google made it clear back in 2014 that sites with SSL Certificates would rank higher on organic search results than those without. This was based on the assumption, which is just a fact by the way, that sites without SSL Certificates tend to fail to deliver good visitors experience. However, this doesn’t mean you are certainly assured that your site will rank highly simply because it has an SSL Certificate; other factors like SEO may influence your ranking. Google clarified that sites with SSL Certificates would enjoy benefits that won’t be available to those without the certificate.


By now, every user of the internet knows a thing or two about the precautions that need to be taken while surfing the internet, more so precautions regarding private information. At times, some organizations are reckless enough to lose a lot of customer information to hackers. SSL Certificate serves to provide standard security that can help stop such incidents by encrypting information shared between the user and the server. Every bit of information is essential, mainly if it can be used to uniquely identify an individual (often referred to as personal data).

We mentioned that Google is committed to make SSL Certificates mandatory. We also mentioned how these certificates help ensure the safety of internet users. Google sought to improve these measures skipping harmful websites by not displaying them in the search results and warning the users about every such website they try to open them. The same applies to malware prone websites. If Google detects malware on your site, they will blacklist your site on the spot, remove it from the organic search results, and warn internet users about it.

Because it is the most popular search engine on the planet, Google tries to play its leading role tune the ranking of websites and ensure security at the same time. The search engine regularly makes changes to its algorithm to improve the ranking and security factors. There are numerous search engines on the internet, but Google stands out of the park with its ability to effectively rank your website based on security and UX (user design).

Both HTTP and HTTPS are underlying protocols that the World Wide Web uses to define how information is transferred between servers and web browsers. Users are encouraged to switch from HTTP to HTTPS for various reasons. The reason is that the HTTPS protocol is very much like an improved version of HTTP, meaning better security and an array of their nice features that aren’t readily available on its older cousin. There are other considerable differences between the two, all of which are critical to your overall safety on the web. For instance:

All these are an effort to show you the link between three things: your safety, HTTPS/HTTP, and SSL Certificates and why Google pushes webmasters to uphold the utmost security standards for them to rank well on the search engines’ organic search results. Yet many sites continue to flaunt even the most basic standards set by Google. As a result, a typical day sees tons of websites closed.

As a webmaster, you have plenty to dread. If by any chance, Google blacklists your website, it will mean your reputation and sales are broken forever. If you are not operating without an SSL Certificate, you should start to forget about getting any significant traffic on your website. And if you are still lagging in upgrading from HTTP to HTTPS, it means your website isn’t secure at all, hence good customer experience is not assured – that’s one of the sins Google frowns upon and won’t hesitate to deliver punishment.

It doesn’t matter how minimalistic your site is (your excuse could be: Okay guys, I’m just dealing in word content over here, no need for high security – WRONG), as long as you are handling some sensitive data, securing your site with an SSL Certificate is a must.

Both HTTP and HTTPS are underlying protocols that the World Wide Web uses to define how information is transferred between servers and web browsers. Users are encouraged to switch from HTTP to HTTPS for various reasons. The reason is that the HTTPS protocol is very much like an improved version of HTTPS, meaning better security and an array of their nice features that aren’t readily available on its older cousin.
There are other considerable differences between the two, all of which are critical to your overall safety on the web.

The biggest difference between HTTP and HTTPS is the SSL Certificate. If your website was based on HTTP but you installed the SSL Certificate, it would effectively start to load on HTTPS. Hence, it won’t be much of a stretch if you said HTTPS is an improved HTTPS. More broadly, we describe HTTPS as a secured improvement of the HTTPS. Now that you know the basic technical information about SSL Certificates, let’s look at main reasons why you need it on your website. There are three primary reasons why having the SSL Certificate on your website is one of the best ideas you will ever make.

You can only hope that the visitor landing on your site and getting greeted with “Not Secure” label is knowledgeable and has an idea why the label would appear there, otherwise, the non-technical visitor will think your site has been hacked or is source of some sort of dangerous malware. This will certainly affect your bounce rate as many visitors will leave immediately as they arrive on your website.

No one wants basic web security measures to negatively affect their brand’s reputation and success. The easiest way of avoiding the needless inconveniences that come with web security measures is to switch from the insecure HTTP to the secure HTTPS. The switch comes with numerous benefits including boosting your rankings on Google and ensuring security on your website. But this doesn’t mean the implementation process will be all easy – switching from HTTP to HTTPS is complex, costly, and often risk-prone. If you look at the benefits it comes with, however, you will be more than willing to do all it takes to have it in place.

Which other search engines (besides Google) do you consider — and for which characteristics do you feel they stand out better than Google? (FYI, I found this blog post using a search engine other than Google’s)

https://www.accuwebhosting.com/blog/the-importance-of-ssl-certificates-to-search-engines/#comment-17442

[2020-04-09 11:33 UTC]

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[earthmotherem.wordpress.com] “Trusting when People Leave your Life”

In the past six months, I have had three people choose to fall away from my life. Two were mostly in step with when my second son was born; one was more recent than that. My Mother always used to say that things came in threes, and it has stuck in my head, so maybe I partly manifested this number, based on that old superstition 🙂

When people up & go, it can create a feeling within of guilt: what did I do wrong? But let me tell you – when someone does this, it is more to do with what is going on within them, than it is to do with you. Unless you chronically have people ditching you – then, yeah, you might need to take a look at yourself. But that’s a post for another day 🙂

So, the three people were: a friend who I saw maybe a small handful of times each year, a good friend and a family member. They often say that you will lose people when big, life events happen: marriage, divorce, having a baby. I think that this instance, in particular, is when it is more to do with the other person. The significant change in your life has stirred something within them. So they choose to leave your life, unconsciously creating a reason that is irrelevant to your situation. Or you just stop hearing from them.

The family member leaving my life was more that I was a bystander of this person’s choice. The fact of the matter is, though, when she chose to stop seeing one of us – in actuality, she of course chose to stop seeing all of us.

The bottom line to all of this is not a matter of me being right and them wrong or vice versa. Whether or not they have bigger things going on in their lives/in their heads. Whether I inadvertently pissed them off or not.

What it all comes down to is how I choose to deal with it.

I can dwell on it; I can point my finger and call them horrible names. I can throw a pity party. Not that anyone can come to it #socialdistancing

What I can do – what you can do, if you are ever in this situation – is take some deep breaths. Feel grateful for the role they played in your life. Write them a letter, detailing those gratefuls. Or write them a letter, venting. Or do both. Just drop it in your local post box without a stamp – or you can burn or bury the letter, if that resonates with you more.

Trust that everything is always working out for your highest good. Acknowledge that your vibration – the energy you give out – changed and was no longer of the same vibration that this person’s was.

Law of Attraction brings us who and what we are in sync with – whether you’re deliberately creating or creating by default.

Trust that the role this person came into your life for has played out and it is for the highest good of you both that you have now moved on.

Life is what we make of it. It happens through our words, thoughts, emotions and actions.

Choose how you will react.

Blessings to you. Have a beautiful day. xx

I don’t believe in the so-called law of attraction. Instead I prefer to REPEL people! (LOL 😉 )

Just posted on something similar recently — see https://fuckwith.news.blog/2020/03/31/to-fuck-with-or-not-to-fuck-with

https://earthmotherem.wordpress.com/2020/04/04/trusting-when-people-leave-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-112

[2020-04-04 14:28 UTC]

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[racquelfrisella.com] “You Are Responsible for Your Reality”

This blog idea was definitely prompted by everything going on with coronavirus and home isolation but the premise of the blog, that we choose our reality, is something I’ve been practicing for a long time and I’m excited to share these concepts with you here. I hope they help you through this highly emotional and confusing time. They do take practice, but they work and are so worth it! I promise if you do these things you’ll be happier! 

Letting Go of Control 

The biggest factor in controlling your own reality is letting go of control. When something causes a negative emotion in you, immediately ask, “can I do something about this right now?”. If the answer is no you have to let it go. If you let something out of your control bother you then you are wasting time and energy feeling negative for no reason. Our minds are very determined to have control over everything, this is why we always think about potential future outcomes. You may think of hundreds of “what ifs” everyday. But the thing is, every single one of those is just that, a What If, and what ifs should not take up space in your mind because it takes us away from the present. 

Letting go of control is hard. Trust me I’m a Type A and I really like to have control. But if having 3 babies under 3 has taught me anything it’s that things almost never go to plan, life can change on a dime and all we can really do is roll with the punches and laugh along the way. 

The only thing we have control of is ourselves. What CAN we control? How CAN we use this time? Spend it with the kids, your family, connect with friends via FaceTime or Zoom,  workout. Finally start that project you’ve been thinking about! These are the things we have control over right now. 

Stop Complaining 

You know what complaining is? Super easy to do!! It’s incredibly easy to pick apart any situation. The weather isn’t good enough. The schedule wasn’t seamless enough. The food wasn’t good enough. The traffic was slow. Unfortunately complaining comes naturally to us, myself included. It’s like if we are too optimistic and positive we risk being disappointed so instead we decide we are disappointed to begin with. Further, most of the things we complain about are completely out of our control which is why we complain about them more! Like the weather. When we complain about something that is in our control then we are likely either looking for compliments/affirmation from others. Otherwise the obvious response to complaining about something we control is, “well do something about it” which no one wants to hear. 

Again, complaining is easy. I get that. But it’s also negative. A good starting exercise is to go 24 hours with no complaints. An entire day! When you catch yourself complaining just recognize it and rephrase. 

“Ugh, the toaster burnt my bread” 

“I’m so grateful we have more bread in the panty cause I just burnt this!” 

“My dog shit on the floor” 

“Good thing it wasn’t on the carpet!” 

“I can’t even do 10 push ups, I’m so weak” 

“I can do 3 full pushups in a row and 10 from my knees!!” 

In almost any case you can switch complaining for gratitude. I know complaining feels good, and there is a time and a place to vent. But in your day to day consider the energy you are putting out each time you complain. If you swap that with gratitude I bet you’ll feel better about the situation! 

We Choose Our Emotions 

The most amazing thing about being human is that we can control our emotions. We have the psychological capability to feel feelings and recognize them when they are happening. Anger, annoyed, tired and sadness all have their roles just like happy, grounded, grateful, excited and proud do. When it comes to the negative emotions it’s about deciding how long you want to stay in those emotions and learning tools to pivot when necessary. Ask yourself, can I control this? If the answer is no, practice letting it go.

It’s okay to worry, to feel fear and all of those things. But you cannot let it consume you. Negative emotions are contagious but just like corona we can stop the spread if we act accordingly! 

To pivot toward joy/happiness the easiest thing to do is express gratitude, when you feel sad or defeated simply start listing things you’re grateful for. We can also connect with a loved one, even if you don’t feel like calling, you’ll feel better after! You can also just do something that brings you joy. If you’re getting anxious or annoyed with work at home, take a break, make a coffee, take a walk, listen to a podcast, do something joyous to help you reset. 

Our Choices Make Us Who We Are 

Who we are as people is just a combination of a million tiny decisions. What’s awesome about this is at ANY time you can start making different decisions. What type of person are you? What type do you want to become? You decide if you’re the type of person who works out 5 days a week, or 6 or none. You decide if you’re the type of person who put their phone away during meals. You decide if you are the type of person who chooses gratitude over complaining. 

Choosing Happiness During Corona Virus Quarantine

As we’ve established only you are in control of you. Internally we are creating our reality with our thoughts and our beliefs. Regardless of the current events you are the only person who can look at things from a negative or positive point of view. You can dwell on the death toll, the jobs lost and the devastation. Or you can thrive in your home, take care of yourself the way you deserve, enjoy quality time with your family and come out of this the best version of yourself. The world needs you at your best! 

Take it day by day. Our true colors show in times of crisis, we can cower and act out from fear, or step up, support, and lead. Our true colors show in times of crisis, but amazing leaders also emerge in times of crises. 

How we handle this is making us strong. Stronger as families, stronger as communities and stronger as a Nation. You can’t get stronger without struggle. 

Have you ever heard “Isolation” (a song by John Lennon)?

I think your attitude re: What people can control is optimistic — but perhaps not particularly realistic. IMHO people are (or may be) not able to control many of the things you mention. “Letting go” is definitely good advice.

So I guess if I were to start complaining, whining around, lamenting all over the place… then maybe you ought to let go of the idea that perhaps you could change my mind. (LOL) :p

You Are Responsible for Your Reality

[2020-04-03 13:26 UTC]

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[irevuo.art] “Dictionary of Unusual Words”

Words and language are at the core of our identity, they allow us to define ourselves, to share our stories, and they are essential to our ability to communicate with others.

This means that there are some words out there that are impossible to translate from one language to another, or describe incredibly particular feelings, objects, or states of mind.

So, without further ado, here’s a collection of some of the most unusual words we use.

For more unusual words click here.

Vocabularies are by no means fixed — they expand and contract constantly, whether from day to day or whether from context to text (such as who we are using words to communicate with).

Much like Shakespeare, I create words in an ad hoc manner — one of my favorite such creations is the word “distrustworthy” … by which I mean something that is worthy of distrust (HMU if you want to know some such examples 😉 ).

Dictionary of Unusual Words

[2020-04-03 07:03 UTC]

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